Walking is super great exercise. I know that, I’d tell you that, and I’d be the first in line to give kudos to anyone who walks regularly. It’s great!
But I’m not a walker. I’m a runner. Granted, I’m a big girl, a clydesdale, Athena, whatever the term du jour, so I’m not a particularly amazing runner. I’m never going to win a race. I’m just happy to finish. But I always take pride in the fact that no matter how slow I go, I can run and run and run forever. (Not actually forever, but for a long time. Slowly.)
True, once upon a time, I used running as a means to punish myself — I binged and then purged via exercise. I ran to be thin. And then, once I was thin, I ran to be thinner. But that’s not why I run now. Now, I run because I like the way it makes me feel. I like to pound the pavement, to hoof it up big hills and fly down the other side, to feel the sun on my face or the wind at my back, to get the miles under my feet. Yes, I’m fat and I’m slow, but I run. I think that’s kind of awesome and it makes me proud.
Turns out, however, that when you’re in the midst of hormone-induced insanity a la IVF, you cannot run. It can cause ovarian torsion, which in addition to sounding horrifying, actually is an emergent medical situation and basically the last thing you want when you’re trying to get your ovaries to cooperate lots-of-eggs-style.
Yoga can do the same thing. And kick boxing. And basically any other rapid movement type exercise. Or heavy lifting, bending, twisting, etc.
So walking is pretty much it. Which is great, like I said, except… I’m having a hard time with that. Being a fat girl walking.
It was tempting for me to keep run run running (slowly) and then to make the change only when I had to, but recognizing that throwing additional changes on top of the uncertainty of a new (and intense) hormonal milieu was probably a bad idea, I decided to get on top of it… to start walking. To be a walker.
On May 30th, I participated in the 14th Annual Marshfield Dairyfest Cheese Chase. I completed my 5 miles, totally rocked the dang thing (in my slow, but steady way) and called it good. Good until all the IVF mumbo jumbo is over and we either have a baby or we don’t.
And now is the time — baby or not time. As I mentioned. Still scary. Still sad. Waaaay harder than I thought it would be. But also easier.
Sort of like running. A lot like walking.
Either way, you put one foot in front of the other. Either way, you’re moving forward. It’s hard to run, physically, but it feels so good emotionally. It’s hard to walk, emotionally, but it’s pretty dang easy, physically.
IVF is hard both emotionally and physically.
I keep crying.
My face is breaking out. Like crazy, pizza face breaking out.
My tummy is so crazy tender.
I’m bloated to the nth degree.
And it’s all only supposed to get worse. For a while.
Amongst it all, I’m a fat girl walking.
Hard as it all is (see above), there’s some things that make it ok too. Mostly it’s YOU guys. You’re freaking amazing. The support, the love, the encouragement and best wishes. Dang.
My mom’s coming tomorrow to hang with me as I drive to and from Madison over and over again until surgery.
Seth is sending me lots and lots of pics of my baby girl:
And the Lemas got me everything I needed for a relaxing daily massage in the comfort of my own living room!
Daily, in theory, except I worked up a little bruise on my right shoulder trying to get a knot out. He he. This thing is soooo nice.
But even better, was the note that came with it:
Fat Girl Walking.
With this much support… I can do this. I can do this. I can do this.
3 thoughts on “Fat Girl Walking”
Can I suggest a title change to this post? I recommend “Brave Girl Walking” or “Strong Girl Walking”. You are an inspiration – knowing the challenges, you are moving forward and being so open and honest in the process. Thank you for sharing and best wishes to you, Seth, and Curls!
Agree……..Strong Brave Woman……….
I am so proud of you!